fertility decisions

Putting all Your Eggs in One Basket: How to Make Difficult Fertility Decisions

There is no right or wrong in the decisions you make for your fertility treatments. It is more about gathering good information from your reproductive endocrinologist to work with and incorporating that into what is right for you.

Having said that, it can be incredibly overwhelming to be faced with a growing number of options and can be hard to make decisive decisions. The best method that I've seen is letting oneself remain conflicted until some clarity emerges - not an easy thing to do when you're actively wanting to move forward!

In western thought we tend to be very dichotomous - this or that, which often breeds inner turmoil, confusion and convoluted decisions (for example: do I or don't I want to pursue donor egg?). In eastern thought we can expand this to hold mutually conflicting ideas as this AND that - giving equal precedence to things that seem to be opposite ideas (for example: I do want to pursue donor egg and I don't want to pursue donor egg). Ironically, this approach often helps the right path emerge faster than resisting either idea!

This is a hard practice in the throws of a time-sensitive process. That's why Integrative Fertility has therapists standing by to provide a forum for working through these entanglements to help you get closer to pragmatic decisions that feel right for you.

All of the therapists on our list specialize in working with fertility issues, and they are always happy to chat with you about their individual sessions or groups to help you determine if it's the right match for you. So, if you're grappling with some tough decisions, don't hesitate to give them a call (plus since you're an Integrative Fertility Member, you get 10% off of their services!)

Beth Jaeger-Skigen, LCSW
1197 Valencia Street
San Francisco, California 94110
(415) 317-4893

Robyn Alagona Cutler, MFT
4570 18th Street
San Francisco, California 94114

 Peggy Orlin, MFT
55 Francisco Street, Suite 500
San Francisco, California 94133
(415) 834-3095

 Wendy Sue Horn, LCSW
2425 Fillmore Street, Suite 100
San Francisco, California 94115
(415) 691-7123